The Straight Spouse Network
Mrs. Amity Buxton started “The Straight Spouse Network” in the 1950’s after her husband came out to her as being gay. He knew that he was gay before they were married. Buxton says “I had to figure out what is homosexuality and how would it affected my life and what did it mean for my kids to be children of a gay man,” she said. “Once I accepted it, I coul d rebuild my moral compass.”
In order to do so, she vowed that no other couple would endure the same pain and devastation. During the height of the AIDS crisis, in 1984 she spoke at a gay fathers group in San Francisco to men who had no idea what their wives were experiencing.
Buxton Buxton wrote a book and became an advocate for gay rights. Buxton joined PFLAG and started a support group in 1991. By 2001, the Straight Spouse Network became an independent organization and today has 54 support groups in 11 countries.